Family Law Mediation Process: How Mediation Can Help You and Why Mediation Is Better Than Litigation
If you’re facing a divorce or parenting dispute in Washington, you already know the challenges: fewer resources, drives to the courthouse, and a desire to keep things private. Fortunately, there’s a better way to resolve family law issues—family law mediation.
In this article, we’ll walk you through the family law mediation process in Washington State, explain how it works, and highlight why it’s often better than going to court—especially in rural areas. Whether you’re in Colville, Newport, Deer Park, Spokane, or the Palouse, this is for you.
This is general information only. This is not legal advice.
What Is Family Law Mediation?
Mediation is a confidential, problem-solving process where a trained neutral (called a mediator) helps you and the other party resolve legal issues outside of court.
In Washington State, mediation is often used for:
Divorce and legal separation
Child custody and visitation schedules
Parenting plans
Child support
Spousal support
Property and debt division
The mediator doesn’t take sides or make decisions for you. Instead, they guide the conversation so you can reach your own agreements—on your terms.
Why Rural Families in Washington Choose Mediation
Here’s why mediation is often a better fit than litigation, whether you live in an urban or rural part of Washington. Most Washington State counties are experiencing decrease in access to legal services, not enough judicial officers, and longer wait times. i
✅ Avoid Long Travel Times
Court dates may require you to attend in person, requiring time off of work and commuting times to the courthouse. Many courts allow you to attend via video conference but you must maintain a stable internet connection for the entire time. We offer in-person and remote mediation options in Washington and Idaho.
✅ Lower Cost
Legal fees and work loss due to court hearings add up quickly. Mediation usually costs a fraction of the cost of a litigated trial.
✅ Quicker Resolutions
Many Washington courts’ trial and hearing calendars are booked out months—or even over a year. Mediation often wraps up in just weeks.
✅ Privacy and Dignity
Family matters are personal. Mediation is confidential—unlike court files and court hearings which are public record.
✅ Flexible Scheduling
At Empower Family Many mediators offer evening or weekend sessions, making it easier to plan around work, childcare, or long commutes.
How the Mediation Process Works in Washington
If you're wondering what to expect, here's a look at how family law mediation typically unfolds in Washington State, step-by-step:
Step 1: Get Started
You and the other party agree to try mediation. Many courts order mediation before a trial. You may also choose to mediate at anytime voluntarily.
Step 2: Choose a Mediator
You can work with a private mediator, or you may qualify for low-cost community mediation services through a Dispute Resolution Center (DRC) in your county. Empower Family Law LLLT operates as a private mediator in Spokane, Stevens, Pend Oreille and Kootenai Counties (in-person) or Zoom statewide.
Step 3: Intake and Scheduling
This is usually handled via email or over the phone. There are expectations and agreements to mediate that each party signs.
Step 4: Mediation Session(s)
The mediator facilitates conversation. You’ll talk about key issues like:
Parenting time and holidays
Division of land, vehicles, or family property
Monthly support or financial arrangements
Sessions are structured but informal, and typically last 1–3 hours.
Step 5: Agreement and Next Steps
If you reach agreements, the mediator drafts an agreement, both parties sign and you can file with the court.
Parenting Plans and Mediation in WA State
If you have kids, Washington requires you to submit a Parenting Plan during divorce or custody actions. Mediation helps parents create a plan that:
Prioritizes the child’s best interest
Is customized to your family
Avoids the need for a trial
Even in high-conflict situations, many parents are surprised by how much progress can be made in mediation—with less stress and more control.
When Is Mediation NOT a Good Fit?
While mediation is helpful in many cases, it may not be appropriate when:
There is domestic violence or intimidation
One person refuses to participate in good faith
There are significant mental health or substance use concerns
If this applies to you, talk to a family law advocate or legal professional before proceeding.
What Happens If Mediation Fails?
You won’t lose your rights. If you can't resolve everything in mediation, you can still:
Present unresolved issues to a commissioner or judge
Use your partial agreements to save time and reduce conflict in court
Request temporary orders if needed while issues are pending
Most courts appreciate any progress made in mediation—it shows you're trying to cooperate.
Mediation FAQs for Washington Families
Is mediation legally binding in Washington?
Once both parties sign a mediation agreement and file it with the court, it becomes enforceable, just like a court order.
Do I need an attorney in mediation?
No, but you may consult with one before or after your sessions. In some cases—especially with property division—it’s wise to get legal advice.
Can we mediate online?
Yes! Many Washington mediators offer Zoom mediation, making it easier for rural residents.
How to Find a Family Law Mediator Near You
Washington has many mediation options. Start here:
Washington State Dispute Resolution Centers – https://resolutionwa.org
Private Family Law Mediators – Search “[family law mediator near me]” or check with your local bar association
Look for someone who understands family dynamics and is trained in Washington State family law.
Mediation Gives Rural Washington Families a Better Way
Divorce and custody issues don’t have to mean courtrooms, high legal bills, or losing control over your future. Mediation offers a respectful, cost-effective path—especially in Washington’s rural communities where court access can be limited.
Whether you live on the Olympic Peninsula, in Central Washington farmland, or along the Idaho border, family law mediation can help you:
Save money and time
Keep personal matters private
Create solutions that actually work for your family
If you’re ready to take the next step, reach out to a mediator or community dispute center near you. A better resolution is possible—and it starts with a conversation.